Reality Is 10 Times Better Than You Think – Let’s Play Spot the Difference

This is part 1 of “A Living God/Goddess” blog series.

by Yoni Whisperer Bodyworker Desmond Black, Perth Western Australia

Did you know most of us human beings live in two different realities at the same time? One is the physical reality, the present moment, and the other, the imagined reality in the mind.

Are you also aware that we spend most of our lives in our head, where the reality is a combination of past memories, projected future, mind-made scenarios, fantasies and so on.

I, personally find it very fascinating how my mind can travel into the past in a blink of an eye and bring me different emotions depending on the memory and how I interpret it. If I judge it as a good memory, I’ll be happy.

If it’s not a so good one, I will be feeling some sort of negative emotions. All of that can be happening in the head, regardless of what is going on in the present moment.

I could be happily chatting with my best friend over a pint of beer. All of a sudden, the thought my co-worker handballing her work to me last week, pop up. Now, I’m pissed off.

I went from happy to angry in a split second. Mood swing alert! Of course, most of the time, the process is swift and subtle, we don’t notice it. Also, past is the fuel source of most depression and low self-esteem issues.

Same thing happens with the imagined future in the mind. When you are imagining your first date with a person you find really attractive, it could bring you such blissful feelings. But, when you are thinking some boring chores you have to do, oh man! You get the gist.

I wonder where anxiety comes from…

Let me ask you a question? What is the difference between us and a crazy man talking to himself on the street, mumbling out random thoughts? Nothing! Except we don’t say our random thoughts out loud.

Still, we get dragged around by our thoughts like a leaf in the wind every day, from the moment we wake up till we fall asleep. Is it really living?

The depression and suicidal rate in first world countries, these days, are alarming.

We will dive into more awesome stuff that will help you live a more meaningful and blissful life on later blogs. For now, I just want you to be aware of the two different worlds we are living in simultaneously.

It’s easy! You don’t need discipline or strong will. You don’t need to analyse or judge either. You don’t even need to change anything. You get to play a fun game.

It’s called spot the difference. You have played it or at least seen it somewhere. It looks like this.

You have to find the differences between two (almost) identical pictures.

Only this time, you are going to spot the difference between your thoughts and present moment. You can play this whenever and wherever.

On the practical level, it will bring you the benefits of focus, awareness, centeredness and calmness. On the spiritual level, you will become conscious enough to tune into your energy body. This is just the surface level of benefits.

The rules are simple. No judging and no analysing. Both of them will lead you to hop on the train of thoughts. If it does happen, come back to the game. All good, no harm done!

Okay, let’s test this. Don’t try to hard!

Start the game by asking yourself the following simple questions, but don’t answer them with your mind. Just feel it.

  • How is my physical energy level? Am I tired or energized? Relaxed or restless? Wakeful or sleepy? (don’t use your mind, instead, feel)
  • How is the weather around me? Is it hot, warm, windy or cold? (can you feel it on different parts of your body?)
  • What sound can you hear? Birds, shower running, cars in the distance, low thumping music from neighbours? (don’t analyse)
  • How am I breathing? Long and deep, or short and rapid? (you don’t have to change anything)

You can use similar questions, and the answers don’t have be answers. These questions are just to bring you into awareness, into the present moment. Now, that you are at least 40% in the actual reality, spot the difference between the present moment and the thoughts in your head.

How many of your thoughts are actually valid? The more you do, the more you will realize that we waste so much of our lifetimes on invalid mental activities.

The beautiful thing is once you are aware of the present reality, you don’t have to do anything to get out of your head. Once you realize you are unconscious, you become conscious.

Stay tune for part 2 of “A Living God/Goddess” Blog series – “Meet the villain behind the curtains” by Desmond Black


BREAST CANCER AWARENESS MONTH – Remember to check those boobies!



October 17, 2016 6.08am AEDT

It’s normal for breasts to be a little bit lumpy


Looking closer at the bright pink display, I discovered a sales campaign in full swing, seemingly timed to coincide with “breast cancer awareness month”.

QV Breast Cream screen shot.

Two dollars from each tube sold was going to a breast cancer charity, and there was a ready-to-use social media hashtag – #IPledgeToCheck. In large font was the message “self checking your breasts is important”.

This is a fairly familiar message. But is it true? The evidence is surprisingly complicated.


Breast cancer is a common and important disease. Affecting about one in eight women at some point in their lives, it is the second most common cause of cancer death in Australian women. I’ve seen it profoundly affect many people, including several of my general practice patients. Preventing this would be wonderful.

Cancer screening means looking for cancer in people without symptoms. An established (though still controversial) example is mammography: breast X-rays. Another less established method is breast self-examination.

At first glance, being offered a chance of finding cancer early sounds like a good thing. But it’s more complicated than that. Some screening tests, despite good intentions, fail to help, or even cause harm.

There are various ways screening can mislead us. Screen-detected cancers often show better survival rates than other cancers, but this doesn’t mean the screening is saving lives.

It can instead mean we’re just detecting the cancer earlier without changing its course, or that the screening is picking up some so-called “cancers” that would never have caused symptoms (this is called “over diagnosis”).

Screening can also cause problems by raising false alarm – discovering a lump that resembles possible cancer, but after a worrisome round of tests turns out not to be.

To best measure the effect of a screening program, we need large “randomized controlled trials” of screening. These are studies in which people are randomly allocated to either screening or normal care, and followed over time to see what happens.



Two large trials of breast self-examination measured important outcomes such as harms and death. In these trials, study staff taught groups of women how to examine their own breasts in a careful, structured manner. Monthly self-examination was encouraged.

These women were followed up and compared to other women who had no training or encouragement in self-examination.

The results of these studies have been brought together and meta-analysed (mathematically combined) in order to summarize our best evidence on the effectiveness of self-examination.

The combined results from nearly 400,000 women are disappointing: encouraging women to examine their own breasts does not prevent any deaths from breast cancer, but does cause false alarm and an increase in the need for biopsies (involving needles or surgical excision).

But here’s the apparent paradox: despite this lack of effectiveness of breast self-examination in these trials, most breast cancers are still discovered because women notice a change in their breasts.

Trying to put these seemingly contradictory facts together can be headache-inducing. How can this all be true?

It must be that significant breast cancers are likely to be detected spontaneously or accidentally by women in the course of normal life, even without self-examination. Adding structured, monthly self-examination sounds wise, even noble, but sadly our best evidence finds it is unhelpful and leads to false alarm.

Why the false alarm? Because it’s normal for breasts to be a little bit lumpy, as firmer glandular breast tissue sits suspended amongst looser fatty tissue. Picking the “signal” of cancer from the “noise” of normal lumpiness can be tricky.



Authors of breast cancer guidelines have tried to resolve the apparent paradox. They recognize the ineffectiveness of formal regular self-examination, but they also don’t want women to completely ignore their own breasts.

As a sort of compromise, guidelines now talk about  breast awareness – having some self-awareness of one’s breasts, and knowing the importance of presenting quickly to a doctor if a change is noted.

This is a prudent message, and it is one I share with my patients. But it’s still unclear exactly where the sweet spot lies between too much self-examination and too little awareness.

These evidence-based uncertainties and nuances are often lost in media messages about breast awareness, and they seem thoroughly lost in this moisturizing cream’s marketing campaign. On Twitter and YouTube, the manufacturer actually encourages women to perform daily self-checks, “by making it part of their every day skincare routine”.

To be fair to the manufacturer, the “daily routine” phrase is echoed by Cancer Australia. But Cancer Australia seem more relaxed about the process, stating that no special technique is necessary and suggesting that a more casual awareness in the shower or in the mirror may suffice.

I haven’t found any evidence to show that using a moisturizing cream is necessary or helpful in cancer detection. So it’s not at all clear that this cream will save anyone from bad cancer outcomes, and there’s a real possibility of causing false alarm. While sales help raise money for a worthwhile charity, it’d be more efficient to donate directly.

Is it possible, behind all the pink-tinted pledge-gathering, that the main goal of this campaign is simply to sell moisturizing cream?


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