USA, Anya de Montigny


Anya de Montigny is a Clinical Sexologist & Women’s Sexuality Expert who believes that each person has a unique sexuality that is totally perfect for them.  Because of the conditioning and training a lot of us have around sexuality we sometimes don’t know how to communicate our desires, set boundaries, or even know what turns us on.  This is where Anya’s years of training in Sex Education and Clinical and Somatic Sexology comes in.  She helps people identify what they want and empowers them to get it!  She works with women and couples in private practice and teaches workshops throughout the San Francisco Bay Area and beyond.



Do you know there is more to learn about sex but don’t know how to get started?

Have you tried traditional psychotherapy to deal with issues of shame, abuse and sexual education and still need some help?

Have you stopped communicating your needs & desires with your partner and need some techniques to reconnect in the bedroom?

Then you have come to the right place.

I offer Sexuality and Intimacy Coaching Programs for Women & Couples.

My technique The LOTUS Method combines Somatics, Sex Education & Sex Coaching to assist Women & Couples to become more satisfied in their Love & Sex Lives.

With workshops, individual mentorship and couples coaching sessions offered in the San Francisco Bay Area and Beyond there is a wealth of information available to you!



  • Have the flames died down in your relationship?
  • Are you having trouble communicating your Desires?
  • Do one of you desire sex more than the other?
  • Do you need some instruction on how to please your Lover?

Then Couples Sex Coaching is for you!

We all go through ups and downs in our intimate relationships and sometimes it feels like there is no end in sight when conflicts or frustrations arise.  The good news is that as soon as you commit to working on your relationship and reach out for help the transformation starts to happen.

Unlike traditional therapy Sex Coaching takes the approach of setting specific goals and working towards them together.  We start with what is going on right now and move towards creating the kind of healthy sexual and intimate relationship you both desire.

My clients generally start to notice a change in their dynamic by the first session!


  • Healthy and conscious communication
  • How to have what you want and please your partner too
  • Sexual anatomy and sexual response cycles
  • Somatic Awareness techniques to increase intimacy and sensation
  • De-bunking myths of what’s “normal”
  • Exploring Fantasies, Kink, and Role-Play for enhanced pleasure
  • Polyamory and Monogamy
  • Renewing or defining Agreements
  • Sex Toys and Tips

With tons of exciting home-play exercises you will benefit not just from meeting together but from the experience you will share outside of the “office” as you bring your new found delight in each other home with you.

Book a free initial Opening Conversation!  Click Here and fill out your details.



I offer Sex & Intimacy Coaching for Women using my personal approach: The LOTUS Method ~ Five Steps to An Awakened Female Sexuality

Combining Somatics, Sex Education & Coaching LOTUS stands for:

  • Love Yourself Fully
  • Open to Orgasm
  • Trust Your Authentic Expression
  • Union with Self, Beloved & Divine
  • Surrender to Satisfaction

There are many reasons we need Coaching in the areas of Intimacy, Relationship and Sexuality.

Often times we are not taught how to set boundaries, ask for what we want, feel entitled to healthy pleasure, understand our own anatomy and engage in healthy communication. We are also not necessarily taught that we can and should have orgasms and fulfillment in our lives and relationships. Low self-esteem and Body Image issues can stand in the way of getting the Relationship that we know we deserve and we can run into patterns of attracting mates that don’t serve us.

Are you sick of not having exactly what you want and deserve in your life?

Do you need tools to get the Relationship you want and the Sex you deserve?

This is where Sex Coaching can make a big difference in your life.

We will explore your issues and use various techniques to transform patterns and make real strides towards the life you deserve.



  • Body Image
  • Communication
  • Empowerment
  • Sexual Trauma Issues
  • Self-Pleasuring
  • Orgasm and Multi-Orgasm techniques
  • How to Ask for What you Want!


  • Masturbation Meditations
  • Ejaculation Training (Female and Trans-Male Ejaculation & Ejaculation Retention for Men)
  • Sensory Awareness
  • Boundaries
  • Relaxing and letting go
  • Healing Sexual Trauma
  • Moving energy through the body
  • Pelvic Release



I offer Sexological Bodywork in conjunction with Sex Coaching for Women, Men, and Trans-gendered people.  Many of us have encountered sexual shame, dis-pleasure or even emotional or physical abuse in one form or another throughout our lives, whether it be from past experiences or just the cultural context in which we live.

Sexological bodywork is a way to move through these blocks with hands-on instruction and guidance to tap into the bodies true capacity for pleasure.  This is a California State certified therapy and has had proven results for individuals and couples alike.

Just as in a therapeutic massage these sessions are about you and your comfort and safety, because of this the practitioner remains fully clothed and gloved for all touch which is uni-directional towards the client.



Sexological Bodyworkers are somatic, erotic educators, assisting individuals, couples and groups to deepen their experience of embodiment.

We are trained sexologists whose certification is approved by the State of California. We offer experiential learning opportunities that consciously access profound ecstatic and erotic states.

Our teaching involves a variety of instructive modalities, including breathwork, touch, erotic massage, pelvic release bodywork, scar tissue remediation, and Orgasmic Yoga coaching.

One of the somatic realms that Sexological Bodyworkers introduce to our students is a state of arousal that is free of fantasy, unfinished emotional business, religious dogma, cultural caveats and habitual sexual behaviors. In this meditative state, an individual becomes aware of the body as a source of wisdom and freedom. One of the ways to access this fecund state is by actively receiving a Taoist Erotic Massage. Helping others access and make use of a variety of erotic states is foundational to the education we offer.

Sexological Bodyworkers believe that sexual health and erotic education are basic human rights.


I’d love to hear from you!

Click Here to schedule a free 30 minute Opening Conversation where we will explore:

  • why you need a transformation around Sexuality and Intimacy in your life
  • what exactly is going on to keep you from your desires
  • how to take the next steps towards having what you want!

This is a time where I devote my attention to you over the phone and get to know you.

Please expect a reply from me in 24-48 hours.


Ms Anya de Montigny

Phone:  415-570-1302

Email: Click Here

Location:  San Francisco Bay, USA

Do tell Anya that you found her on the Yoni Whisperer Website