SEX HURTS! Painful Sex – and what to do about it !

Passionate Spirit

by Isiah McKimmie *CSB   www.PassionateSpirit.com.au

*Certified Sexological Bodyworker – Cairns, Qld

 

PAIN AND SEX

FOR SOME WOMEN, SEX IS NOT A PLEASURABLE EXPERIENCE…IT CAN CAUSE MILD TO EXTREME PAIN IN OR AROUND THE GENITALS.

Experiencing painful sex can be confusing, frustrating and scary for all those involved. For those of you who do feel pain or discomfort during sex or a resulting inability to have sex at all — you’re not alone, it’s not your fault and solutions are available.

The experience of pain during sex affects up to 14% of women (according to Sexual Health Australia). Sensations can include burning, stinging, rawness or tightness. Some women may even have difficulty inserting a tampon due to the pain.

PAINFUL SEX – WHAT IS IT?

There are a number of potential conditions that may be causing pain. Terms such as Vulvodynia, Vaginismus, Dyspareunia, Vestibulitis may be applied as an explanation, though these can be confusing and don’t really explain much at all.

HERE IS MY SIMPLEST EXPLANATION OF THE TERMS:

  • Vulvodynia – pain around the vulva.
  • Vestibulitis, vestibulodynia or vulvar vestibulitis – pain just outside the vagina.
  • Vaginismus – tightening of the vagina causing pain.

These all fall into the category of non-medical sexual pain. Dr Pacik of vaginismusmd.com explains:

Currently, the default diagnosis of sexual pain is vulvodynia. That means that when a physician is faced with a patient who is unable to have intercourse because of pain, the diagnosis is automatically vulvodynia or “vestibulitis” Very few clinicians think of asking about vaginismus and therefore most of my patients have been misdiagnosed as suffering from vulvodynia, when in actual fact the correct diagnosis was vaginismus.”

VAGINISMUS OR VULVODYNIA – WHAT CAUSES IT?

Often, there may not be an ‘obvious’ cause at all which can be frustrating to sufferers and their partners. A number of things however have been known to contribute to the painful experience including fears around sex, or of pain, stress, anxiety, past traumatic events in regard to sexuality. Physical medical conditions like yeast infections, urinary tract infections, endometriosis or others may be a factor also.

PAINFUL SEX – HOW CAN I FIX IT?

You don’t need to suffer alone with the experience of painful sex. Treatment options are available.

Firstly, make sure that it’s not a physical medical condition and have yourself tested for yeast and bacterial infections as well as sexually transmitted diseases.

Whilst I don’t support them, there are a number of medical treatments available including botox injections into the vulva area. I would prefer to use non-invasive, long-term solutions that address the cause as well as the symptoms.

Somatic sex therapy offers holistic, successful treatments for many painful sex conditions. In sessions you will be safely guided and supported to explore what the underlying causes may be and address those gently. Mindfulness or relaxation techniques can help relax the mind and the vulva and reduce the experience of pain. Somatic sex therapy can also provide exercises that help retrain the mind and nervous system to have positive sexual experiences and eliminate the fear of pain during sex.

If you are the partner of someone experiencing pain during sex, try to be patient and understanding. It’s likely that you’re feeling frustrated too, but pressuring your partner won’t help in the long run. Find other ways to release your tension, and focus on helping your partner to feel safe and supported around physical intimacy.

You don’t need to suffer. You can have the sex life and relationship that you dream of. If you’re experiencing painful sex – seek help. (by Isiah McKimmie *CSB)

Passionate Spirit

Isiah McKimmie *CSB

*Certified Sexological Bodyworker – Cairns, Qld

Love with Passion. Live with Passion.

http://www.passionatespirit.com.au

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Yoni Whisperer - Aleena Aspley of North Brisbane Australia is a Certified Somatic Sexologist, (Sexological Bodyworker) USA 2010 ALEENA'S CREDENTIALS. Certified Somatic Sexologist (Sexological Bodyworker) USA 2010 Over eight years experience relaxing people of all Genders-since 2005 Owner of Kinkassage Sensual & Adventurous Erotic Adult Massage Owner of Tantra Kinkassage Sublime Transformational & Intuitive Tantric Adult Massage Owner Of Domme Kinkassage Avant-garde, Playful & Edgy Domination for Adults Male Multiples Makeover for Men - Multiple Orgasm / Ejaculation Optional Quodoushka 1 & 2 Graduate March 2014 Angel Intuitive Graduate with Doreen Virtue 2013 Certificate in Lomi Lomi Hawaiian relaxation Urban Tantra Professional with Barbara Carrelas 2012 Certified Bondassage Practitioner 2011 Reiki 1&2 2010 Theta Healer 2010 Dakini Course with Triambica 2011 USA Andrew Barnes-Awakening Within Institute- Luminous Energy Orgasms 2011 Reflexology Certificate 1996 Les Mills PUMP instructor Training 1995 Lifeline Telephone Befriender 1995 Certificate in Human movement as a Fitness Trainer 1989 FUTURE COURSES OF INTEREST TO ME Chakradance (2014) Sweet Medicine Shamanic De-armoring (2014) Sweet Medicine Red Lodge Program (2015)